GETTING YOUR BUSINESS AND YOUR LIFE UNSTUCK
“The first step towards getting somewhere is to decide that you are not going to stay where you are.” J. P. Morgan
Have you ever felt you were stuck in moving your business or your life forward? Have the voices of Mr. ‘Comparison’ and Ms. ‘What If’ ever come to wreak havoc in your thoughts?
Mr. Comparison says, “You know, you really do not have much experience with this. You really could never do it as well as…. Others have much more knowledge about it. You should wait until you gain more wisdom and experience”.
Our unwanted friend, Ms. What If says, “What if others do not like you or your idea? What if you pitch your idea for your business, and they ask you questions and you do not know the answers? What if they ask for credentials?”
Miss What If, coupled with Mr. Comparison, are enough to stop us dead in our tracks. We are left feeling inadequate, not prepared, unknowledgeable with no experience.
Where do we go from here? How can we get loose of this deadly duo’s grip and start moving forward.
Fear + negative thoughts + no action = Staying stuck
Courage + choice + positive thoughts + forward action = Getting unstuck
Getting rid of Comparison Thinking
“Everyone has in them something precious that is in no one else.” Martin Buber
- Give yourself some credit. Make a book, box or file that contains lists, clippings, or mementos of your accomplishments, things you feel successful about. Take it out and review it frequently. Keep adding to it.
- Remember the experience you do have, not what you do not have. Jot this down.
- Do you know what your strengths and abilities are? If you are not sure, ask five people that know you well.
Getting rid of What If Thinking
- Remember there are costs and benefits to each situation. What If thinking can highlight the costs, and overshadow the benefits. Are the costs realistic, or based out of fear? What are the benefits?
- Re-frame each What If thought, into a moving forward statement. What If they do not like my idea or me? Re-frame into – If they do not like my idea, or me, I will not take it personally, and will keep moving forward.
- How much energy are the What Ifs draining from your life? Notice what happens, how you feel in your mind, body and spirit when you entertain them.
Getting Rid of feeling inadequate and unprepared
“How often – even before we began – have we declared a task “impossible”? And how often have we constructed a picture of ourselves as being inadequate? … A great deal depends upon the thought patterns we choose and on the persistence with which we affirm them.” Piero Ferrucci
- Discount yourself and your great ideas? What would happen if you kept a list of those ideas so they can be expanded upon when the time is right for you?
- Fear not knowing the answers? Does this make you feel unprepared? What questions do you need to ask, that will help you feel informed and move in the direction you wish to go next.
- Flounder about, wondering whom to contact? Write out the names of people you would like to explore your idea with further. What business are they in? What are their phone numbers and website addresses? Make it a goal to contact at least one person in a period that is right for you. If you work best under deadlines, write it on the calendar and ask a friend to keep you accountable.